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Being Created Woman in the 21st Century

Posted by word4women on September 30, 2009

busy womanAbout a week ago I posted an article entitled, “Why Did God Create You Woman?” Since then I have received many comments. For the most part the comments have been from fellow complementarians. Some however have questioned the validity of the article as they state that it “sets out a stereotype taken from the writings of a patriarcal society.”

A close review of my article will show that the assertions are from the Holy Bible. Now if anyone views the Word of God as being written in a patriarcal society, I can only answer with scripture. To do otherwise would be to give my “human” opinion. Thus the answer is, ” All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness” 2 Timothy 3:16 TNIV.  I chose to quote from the TNIV translation as those who would criticize my beliefs feel most comfortable with this “gender neutral” bible.

Additionally, I was asked how this(my essay) addresses the issue of God and humanity. What about woman pastors, professional women, work and women and men and work. Let me address these one by one:

God created each male and female marvelously and wonderfully different from the other. They have been created not only to physically complement each other, but to work together for the kingdom. Woman are given amazing natural characteristics that allow her to serve the kingdom in many ways. Throughout scripture we see example after, example of strong and intelligent women. How does Abigail complement her husband? By being a wise and discerning woman who humbly goes before a king and thus becomes a life giver to her husband. Esther through her obedience is used by God to give life to her people.  Lydia, a businesswoman is able to financially and physically provide for the smal “church plant” in her home. The woman of Proverbs 31 is a businesswoman and home keeper. The scripture tells us she has the trust of her husband as she does him no wrong. Once again we see woman in their God given roles excelling and being life givers. Woman and roles in the Church. A woman is limited by God in the role of Pastor. This is not because women are not good preachers, teachers, or leaders. It is because that is the structure God provided for order. When 60% or more of every congregation consists of women. WHY are these women not serving other women! There are endless ways in which women can serve and honor God’s role for them.

Why is the issue of Pastor an issue….. BECAUSE we ALL want what we cannot have if it is percieved to be “more special’, “better”, “bigger” or more important. This equals pride. Our Lord Jesus Christ came not to be served but to serve. Should we as Christian women seek to do less?

Lastly, I have been asked how this relates to modern married and unmarried women.  Everything I said relates to all women. We are to be life givers. As previously stated in my essay, you do not have to give birth to give life. If you are a professional business women who is single and travels, you have an amazing opportunity to be a witness of an intelligent, secure, woman who through every action of her life chooses to do that which will assist her fellow humans.

Are you a married woman who has a career and a husband and children? I can say I have been there and done that. Actually I have been a homeless single mother with three children. Though I was not a Christian at that point in my life I sought to give life in all I did. Not only in the care of my own children, but in the care of others. When I had a home and experienced a young single mother with 2 children, they came into my house and I shared all that was mine with her.  Since being married and all of the children having moved out, my husband and I have done the same for a pregnant woman and her children….. What does the scripture and my role as a woman in God’s image have to do with the 21st Century? Everything!

The scripture contains everything any individual requires for life and godliness. It contains truth and grace that frankly I do not know how a busy mother, wife and career woman can live without.

In closing I would like to quote a feminist theologian…

A feminist who loves the Bible produces, in the thinking of many, an oxymoron. Perhaps clever as rhetoric, the description offers no possibility for existential integrity. After all, if no man can serve two masters, no woman can serve two authorities, a master called scripture and a mistress called feminism.  Dr. Phyllis Trible

No one can serve two master or two mistresses or a master and a mistress.

As a Christian we are called to do all to the Glory of God and to seek first the kingdom of heaven. By doing this we will not serve two masters but one. The only one true God.

For those of you who have any questions, please read the scripture. If you do not think my essay relates to you where you are right now…. then send me a comment with a short description of who you are and I will be happy to relate how being created woman unfolds as you walk in your shoes through life today.

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Why Did God Create You…. Woman?

Posted by word4women on September 23, 2009

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Recently I completed an essay question on my definition of Biblical Womanhood. I would like to share this with you and seek your personal comments.

~ Had you ever thought of “why” God created you woman?

~ Have you ever thought of “how” being created woman might affect your daily life?

~ Have you ever thought of “what” being created woman looks like in your daily life?

~ “Who” are you as a daughter of Christ?

Biblical Womanhood begins with being created by God in His image. Though male and female are both created in the image of God, Genesis 2 provides a clear picture of the roles God designed each of us to fulfill. Man was created from the dust of the ground and named by God.  As God worked in creation He declared all things good until after the creation of man, this He said was not good for there was no other comparable to Adam. God thus built woman from a part of man. Man is Ish and Woman as Ishshah, she is from man. She was built to complement Adam. She is his ezer kenegdo, a helper comparable to him.

 It is my belief that being taken from the side of Adam is a visual indication of her role. She is to walk beside him as if under his arm, being protected as the weaker vessel. She does not walk behind him as she is comparable to him and not inferior in any way. Depending on the translation of the bible you use, God himself is referred to in the OT as the ezer over 20 times. This provides a wonderful example to insure you understand this role as very special and of great necessity. Not in any subordinate manner.

God then allows Adam to name woman and he named her Eve; being the mother of all living. Woman should always be life givers. A woman does not have to bear a child to be a life giver. We give life through the very words we speak. If we do not understand our design we can become life takers. Again this does not mean to kill someone, but simply a hard heart and a sharp word can take the life from whoever is being spoken to.  This can be illustrated in 1 Peter as he addresses a woman married to an unbeliever. Through  a woman’s gentle and quiet spirit… I could substitute her life giving demeanor for gentle and quiet spirit. Not only will she complement her unbelieving husband, she also provides a witness for others. More importantly by being a life giver she can be used as a vehicle by the Lord as He turns her husband’s heart and he is converted. What an honor to be used as a vehicle to give eternal life.

When in Genesis 3 the serpent tempts the woman, three things occur: number one, this is the first question of the Bible. The first example of doubt and the first example of us seeking to be God. Additionally, it is the first indication of what would later be referred to as legalism. Adding to the Word of God specifically warned against in Rev 22. When the serpent asks Eve if God really said she could not eat of this tree, she replies that He said they could not eat from nor touch the tree. The Lord indeed gave the command to not eat of the tree, but He did not say do not touch. Finally as Eve ate of the apple, sin entered the world. The beautiful life in which God provided all the needs of Adam and Eve and the animals is forever gone.

Only through the “seed” of woman, the Lord Jesus Christ, will we participate in a perfect sinless life.

 Adam and Eve each receive their consequences as a result. Eve is to have much pain in child birth and her desire will be to rule over her husband, to usurp the headship given to him by God.

A woman’s call to submission likewise is life giving. If she is to rush forward and fill voids and act independently she steals from her husband the opportunity to step forward and become the servant leader he has been called for. She is not called to be subservient to her husband, but is called to joyously stand under his authority. It is her role to interact regularly with her husband. Whether it is about the family budget or how to raise the children, however; when all is said and done her husband makes the final decision and she gracefully accepts his decision. If she disagrees with him she should not bear ill will towards him in anyway, but she must go to the Lord and continue to pray for her husband and herself. She must ask the Lord to illumine them both. If in fact she is wrong she seeks the wisdom promised to us in James.  Should the husband have made the wrong decision, God in His time will bring this to his attention?

Proverbs 31 provides a wonderful picture of a life giver and the precious value of one like this, an excellent wife. All women should remember that Proverbs 31 presents a completed character. We will not be called upon to be/do all of the parts of Proverbs 31 at the same time. As we learn in the book of Ecclesiastes, there is a time for every purpose under heaven. The author and perfector of our faith will provide the time as suits His purpose.

As a woman steps through her life, from the moment she is knit together in her mother’s womb, God has already chosen her and set her future in motion. We can be assured that he will never leave us nor forsake us, that He is there as our helper as we walk as our husbands helper. Likewise we are to study to show our self approved, that we may lead a life glorifying to the Lord. Glorifying the Lord as we give testimony and teach younger women, the Word of God and the “why” of being created woman.

God has granted many wonderful and precious opportunities throughout the bible and into modern day. Lydia was the first European convert and was called to open her home as a house church, women were the last at the cross and the first at the tomb, the first to see and speak to the risen Christ and thus the first proclaim of His resurrection.  These are all wonderful and special, but cannot be used as any scriptural foundation for, preaching and having authority over a body of believers. In 2 Timothy we receive clear instruction as to how we are to conduct ourselves in corporate worship.  Also in Titus it is clear that men alone are to be elders.

In closing I would like to refer to the italicized “named” in the first few paragraphs. Naming is a designation of authority. God named Adam and then granted Adam the authority to name the animals and Eve.  The combination of this and the fact that God made woman from man and called her as a helper suitable….before the fall provides sound biblical evidence of the authority and headship belonging to man. This was God’s perfect will and purpose.

 *** from the original Hebrew

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Our Great Physician

Posted by word4women on September 23, 2009

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Confession: this week has been a spiritual battle for me, and I’ve surrendered most of the early skirmishes. I just hate giving in to a week like that when I know good and well the Lord’s Supper is going to be celebrated on Sunday, and I’ve got to deal with it. Accountability is required.

So, reluctantly at first, I start to remind myself that God is good and compassionate and forgiving, and flies to help his sinning children when they turn back. Maybe, just maybe, I can salvage Sunday. Ha, who am I kidding, only God can salvage this.

Enter the rainy day, a gift: one of my favorite times, alone in the car with a lot of errands to accomplish, and one or two good CD’s for company and inspiration. For some reason, fog on the outside seems to clear the fog in my brain. And so my thoughts, which since my heart surgery have been like peeling away the layers of an onion, turn to the many ways the surgery has been like our experience with Jesus, those of us who once ran from him but have now come to love him.

My heart was bad, bad enough to kill me, but I was totally ignorant of it. It began to give me a few warning signs how sick it was, but I was busy with my life and figured I had plenty of time left to do something serious about it.

When the true condition of my heart was revealed to me, I went into my Dr. Mom mode, thinking I still had time to try my own efforts at a cure. Maybe some lifestyle changes? Would taking some pills do the job? To be honest, I was pretty artful about this, religiously put a lot of research and study into it, and dragged out the time frame as long as I could.

As providence would have it, I got stuck with a very blunt doctor. No, two very blunt doctors. “You failed the test.” “It’s only a matter of time before a very bad event happens to you.” At that point I became irate (oh, how it hurts to admit this) and vowed I would not have the recommended cure. I would take my chances with my destiny rather than go into that bottomless pit of misery. Yes, I did indeed say that. Me, the Responsible Mom.

The surgeon was called in, and he would not let me out of the surgery. He wasn’t very talkative, nor did he have a dazzling personality. That didn’t matter. He radiated authority and commanded attention, because he was willing to be out there, doing the hard work to save lives. He knew a radical change was the only fix, and he insisted on it. Finally I had to give up all my own pathetic efforts, and in doing so I had no choice but to stake my whole future on him. I had to put myself totally at his mercy. On the day of surgery there were a lot of other people present, but I was depending on him alone to take me through that dark valley and bring me out with life.

I found he did more than I thought he would…four arteries instead of three. He did a complete fix. I found he was not only competent, but compassionate as well. I didn’t see it at first because I thought he was maybe just a bit…harsh. It wasn’t until after the surgery that I could put the depth of his concern into the picture. He tells me I have a good heart now, one that will give me a second life.

I still bear the marks of the surgery, and always will. Most people don’t see the marks, but they see the change. And it is good.

I will always remember; I will always be grateful. How could I not? He gave me life.

Would I commend this physician to people who, like me, have bad hearts that will kill them?

Would you?

I’m still on this journey; I haven’t totally arrived. I still have twinges and pangs in my heart, reminding me how bad it once was. But it is fundamentally a good, healthy heart. And there is medicine to take for those troublesome pains.

So, when I face a struggle like the one I’ve had this week, I can call on the Physician, who is good and compassionate, and who has promised in his faithfulness to forgive and cleanse.

And I am reminded that celebrating the Lord’s Supper isn’t about whipping ourselves into reluctant obedience, so that we can present a facade of worthiness. It’s about knowing that Jesus is the only one with an answer for our sick hearts, and turning to him sooner rather than later. It’s about considering the one who really did go into a bottomless pit of misery, so that we wouldn’t have to dwell there forever. It’s about remembering his deep compassion for us in dying to give us life. It’s about honestly bringing our hearts which do still give us twinges and pangs of sin, and letting Jesus continue to do his work in them, because he has promised to complete the work he began.

This was written by a very sweet friend Jean. God Bless her for sharing.

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On the Loquacity of Women, Homeboys, and 1 Timothy 2:11-12

Posted by word4women on September 21, 2009

girl rap

I guess I had no idea that one of the most popular rap songs of 1985—and one that my friends and I sometimes quoted to one another as high school seniors—was so theologically interesting. The group was known as Run D.M.C., and they broke into hip hop with a track titled “You Talk Too Much.” Perhaps you have heard it in a movie or an advertisement. The chorus (if we may call it that) says,

You talk too much,
You never shut up,
I said you talk too much,
Homeboy, you never shut up.

The success of the rap, in part, was due to the reality it conveyed. Some of the homeboys simply talked too much. And they needed to be corrected. This idea rang true in “the hood” as well as at the local country club.

Why is this song theologically interesting? Because it suggests a curious theological proposition about the nature of male and female.

Fast forward to the year 2008, and I find myself in a chapel service at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary listening to a sermon. Early in the message the speaker reflected on his propensity to talk too much. I think he was warning us about the length of the sermon. He said this: “My wife calls me motor mouth…. ‘You talk more than other men…. You talk too much.’ …” His wife’s assessment was spot on. Chapel ran about twenty minutes over that day. I actually enjoyed the message. But the point remains. “You talk too much….Homeboy, you never shut up.”

Why is a preacher’s personal admission about talking too much so theologically interesting? Because it undermines the common assumption that women talk more than men.

Now we are prepared to ask the question that forms the basis for this essay. Do women talk more than men? That is, are females inherently more loquacious than males simply because of their gender? If so, what are we to make of the above examples? Are they simply men who are more “in touch” with their “feminine side”?

The answer is not as simple as one might think. And we ought to be careful in how we use Scripture to answer this question—as well as other questions like it. That is really the larger point of this two-part essay (I hope to offer a second installment, “On the Gullibility of Women”). In short, the purpose of the essay is to show the importance of exercising a responsible hermeneutic when it comes to reading gender passages in Scripture.

Before I offer an answer to the question, I want to identify a popular, common assumption and then comment on recent studies that yield conflicting answers to the question.

The Popular Assumption, Recent Studies, and Personal Observations

The popular assumption is this: women are by nature more loquacious than men. Women are chatty creatures. They talk because they like to talk. They enjoy talking when they are happy. They also talk in order to solve problems—or at least cope with the problem. Simply put, talking has a place in a woman’s life that it does not have in a man’s life. In the words of psychologist John Gray, author of the bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, when it comes to dealing with life’s problems, “men go to their caves and women talk.” Is it really the case that men go through life with grunts and nods while women prefer to talk?

Two recent studies offer conflicting answers. One researcher claims that women do in fact talk more than men. Louann Brizendine, a Yale and Harvard trained M.D. and author of The Female Brain (Broadway, 2006), claims that women talk about three times more than men. The disparity, according to her studies, is something like 20,000 words per day vs. 7,000 words per day. In addition to saying more than men daily, women also speak about twice as fast as men. Speech patterns, then, according to Brizendine, reflect an inherent, gender-based neurological difference between men and women.

Last year NPR reported on a study conducted by Matthias Mehl, Asst. Professor of Psychology at the University of Arizona, that suggests otherwise. Mehl and his assistants outfitted about 400 college students with recording devices in order to determine who talks more. As it turns out, both the men and women spoke on average about 16,000 words a day. There was some variation (women speaking a little more than 16,000 words per day) but the disparity has been interpreted as “not statistically significant.” Curiously, the three top talkers in Mehl’s study were all men. So much for the taciturn male. According to Mehl the popular myth that women talk more than men is more a result of pop-psychology and overgeneralization than careful research. Mehl hopes that this study will undermine “female chatterbox and silent male” stereotypes and assist in relieving other gender constraints that have put men in “the gender box” far too long.

These two recent studies have yielded interesting results, and I am sure there are more studies like these to come. As to my own personal observations, I have to say that I know some male friends who can gab with the best of women. And on the other hand I know some women who appear to be anything but loquacious. Perhaps we should look to Scripture to get a better grasp on this aspect of the human condition.

Does Scripture Teach the Quietness of Men and Loquacity of Women?

Not long ago I listened to a complementarian explain that one of the reasons the Apostle Paul requires “silence” of women in the church is that women are prone to talk more than men (cf. 1 Tim 2:11-12 and 1 Cor 14:34-35). Such a proclivity to talk more than men makes women more susceptible to sin—or, is at least a unique manifestation of sin for women. He went on to suggest that such an understanding is how one should read 1 Tim 2:11-12. When Paul says, “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet,” the prohibition is designed, in part, to protect the church from female leadership that is inherently more likely to sin through a multitude of words. The women of 1 Timothy 5 are a vivid example of this potential problem—they go about from house to house as “gossips and busybodies” (1 Tim 5:13). Of course, he also accounts for other, more central reasons for Paul’s prohibition found in 1 Tim 2:12. The other reasons that he gives, in my opinion, have a more reasonable basis in the text.

I do not see Paul’s requirement for the “silence” or “quietness” of women in any way related to the idea of an inherently loquacious gender. I do not even see it as a sub-point or something implicit in the text. Simply put, Paul’s prohibition of 1 Tim 2:12 concerns two defining activities of pastoral leadership—teaching and the exercise of authority in leadership—that are contrasted with a disposition that is willing to follow such leadership without dispute. The words translated “she is to remain quiet” (ESV) refer as much to a nonverbal disposition as to the absence of a spoken response.

Are there other passages of Scripture that might teach us that women talk more than men? It is true that some texts of Scripture describe women who sin through a multitude of words. Probably the one that comes to mind for most of us is the contentious woman of Proverbs. It is better to live alone in the wilderness or in a corner of the housetop than to live with her (Prov 21:19; 25:24). Another text describes living with her as “a continual dripping on a rainy day” (Prov 27:15). The metaphor used here vividly describes the incessant niggling and nagging of some women. But the point of the metaphor is not that she has an inherent proclivity to talk more than her husband wants. Rather, the point is simply to convey how annoying and demoralizing a contentious wife can be to a husband.

And yet, while it is the case that some texts describe women who sin through a multitude of words, the same may be said of men. It is not a uniquely feminine problem. Again we turn to Proverbs, which warns both men and women not to sin through many words. “When words are many, transgression is not lacking” (Prov 10:19). Or, “the mouths of fools pour out folly” (15:2). And again, “a fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back” (29:11). In the New Testament, James explicitly instructs his “beloved brothers” to be quick to listen and slow to speak, and to “bridle” their tongues as a demonstration of true religion (Jas 1:19, 26).

I think, then, we would be hard-pressed to make a biblical case for women talking more than men. Having said that, I can certainly understand those who think that, generally speaking, women tend to talk more than men. That may well be true in a particular marriage, family, or work setting. It may also be true that there are indeed some measurable intellectual and psychological differences between men and women. I happen to think that there are, but Scripture does not explicitly teach us this. Our assumptions, experiments, studies, and conclusions are all based on life experience, and the complexities of factors that make up such a life experience are excessively difficult to assess objectively. My point here is that when it comes to questions we have about male and female and how they relate, we should be responsible with Scripture, trying our best not to allow our own experiences to hinder a responsible reading of the Bible. And as complementarians we ought to be careful not to identify more gender-based differences than really exist, all in the name of “enjoying the difference.” Doing so could easily result in missing what the Scriptures have to say to all of us.

On Sanctifying Homeboys and Homegirls

Perhaps we should ask a slightly different question—one that I think is a more important question—that yields a very different answer. Do men and women talk too much? The answer to this question gets at an undeniably clear answer in Scripture.

Yes. Every descendant of Adam and Eve talks too much. And in doing so we are making a statement about the condition of our souls. We often say the wrong things at the wrong time and in the wrong way. As recently as yesterday I was with a good friend who said, very intentionally, “hear me out before you respond to this.” Apparently, I have a habit of interrupting him and he wanted to prevent that. The failure to listen well is a spiritual problem for all of us.

Have you ever considered that listening is foundational to the Christian faith? Christians above all others should understand the ultimate reason for this. God has spoken. He has not remained silent. He has spoken to us in creation, the living Word, and the written Word. He has spoken, and so we listen. From the moment we first believed the gospel, we were listeners. It was because we chose to listen to God’s voice and repent that we were rescued from the damning voice of the accuser, Satan.

I was first introduced to the idea that listening is foundational to the Christian faith by David Wells. As he put it, following the insight of Anders Nigren, “in Christian faith we listen, because in Christian faith we are addressed from the outside—God speaks to us, and before him we are summoned.” Learning to listen is a mark of a distinctly biblical faith. Wells has helped me to see that such an understanding of listening is not only foundational to the Christian faith, but also a lifelong evidence of the Christian disposition. Listening continues to form the souls of both men and women in a distinctively Christian way.

In one of my favorite books, Life Together, Dietrich Bonhoeffer teaches us the value of listening and its place in forming Christians both in solitude and in community. He says, “Right speech comes out of silence.” Here Bonhoeffer reminds Christians to practice the habit of silence before entering into conversation with others. Christians need definite times of silence—”silence under the Word and silence that comes out of the Word.” The

Word of God is not heard by the chatterer. Rather, the Christian learns to listen in a “simple stillness” under the Word of God. This is just what Christians do. Christians listen more than they talk.

Listening and not talking too much are lost habits these days. But when we do practice silence and the habit of listening, we are more like Jesus Christ who listened perfectly to the voice of God. On the other hand, when we listen to our own voices we are more like the archetypal homeboy, Adam, who listened to the voice of the archetypal homegirl, Eve. Instead of obeying the voice of God both Adam and Eve listened to other voices.

It’s not just the daughters of Eve who talk too much. We all talk too much. We never shut up.

cbmw_titlePeter R. Schemm, Jr.

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Courage in the Pastorate: An Interview with John Piper

Posted by word4women on September 20, 2009

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JBMW: Tell us about your background, about your family, and about how you became a Christian.

JP: I had the great honor and joy by sheer grace of being born into the home of an evangelist, Bill Piper, and a godly woman, Ruth Piper. They had two children, my older sister and me. My folks raised us under the Word of God and under an umbrella of prayer. They were the happiest Christians I have ever known. They taught me the truth of Christ, and I embraced that truth and made a profession of faith when I was six years old. There were times when I had theological struggles or questions, but I never really saw any reason to doubt the validity of what my parents had taught me.

I went to Wheaton College, where this was all deepened and strengthened. I loved my days at Wheaton. They were tremendously significant, as I discovered a whole new realm of hymnology and church history and a wider evangelical life than at the Baptist church where I’d grown up. Fuller Seminary was a stretching, broadening experience for me because of the things I discovered about how to interpret the Bible and the grounds for believing its truth. During this time I developed strong convictions about Reformed theology under the influence of Dan Fuller, who pointed me to the works of Jonathan Edwards. So I look back on my life as one grace after another.

JBMW: How did you come to your convictions about biblical manhood and womanhood?

JP: None of us know exactly how we have come to think the way we do because the seeds of our convictions are sown long before we know anything about it. Most important was the fact that I grew up in a Bible-believing home, where my parents said that the Bible is true and to be obeyed, regardless of what the culture says. So I’ve never felt a strong impulse to change my views just because they are at variance with the culture-at-large. I don’t care about being up-to-date in Kansas City. I care about honoring the Scriptures. So when I realized that the Scriptures teach a complementary view of manhood and womanhood, I accepted that teaching, even though it went against the dominant viewpoint of the culture. Further, I viewed the Scripture’s teaching as a good thing, because God is good.

However, I would be naïve if I didn’t say that the home where I grew up had a significant impact on me, though not exactly in the way some people might think. My dad was away from home two-thirds of the year in evangelistic meetings, so my mother was everything to me. She was my financial adviser, the one who taught me how to make pancakes, the one who taught me how to clean my room, and the one who made sure I got out and played football and basketball with the guys. And yet when my daddy came home, he was clearly the leader. He took the initiative. He was the one who said, “We’re going to worship this morning,” or, “Let’s have devotions, Mommy you read this, Johnny you read that.” When we went to a restaurant, he drove the car, and he paid the bill. He was taking all those intangible initiatives, and I was absorbing his words and actions and the fact that my mother loved it-omnicompetent though she was. I had the privilege of seeing my mother run the household by herself most of the time and yet also see her gladly submit to Dad’s leadership when he was there. So the idea that his leadership signified her incompetence never occurred to me.

When I graduated from high school, as I recall, I was nineteenth in my class, of 300 or so, and the eighteen who were ahead of me were women, except for my friend Kenny. When I went to Wheaton, it was women who were always ruining the grade curve because they were so bright. I grew up surrounded by tremendously intelligent, articulate, competent women, most of whom were very happy that men were strong, godly leaders in their homes and in the church. So this background strengthened me for the days of controversy when I had to decide for myself: “Am I going to go with the cultural flow of egalitarian feminism, or am I going to stick with the plain meaning of Scripture?” And the more I studied the issue, the less compelling the arguments on the egalitarian side seemed. So I remain a believer in a very happy, hope-filled, creative, complementarian view.

One more point. The essential thing about God, as I see Him in the Scriptures, is that He is sovereign and good. This means that when He tells us to do things, they’re good for us. So I’m going to trust His Word and believe that for the man to be the head of the woman in the home and for men to be the godly, spiritual leaders in the church is really good for women, good for men, good for kids, good for evangelism, good for world missions, and good for every kind of ministry that the church ought to do.

JBMW: How do you get men involved in church and in leadership?

JP: Leon Podles, author of The Church Impotent, says that men aren’t in the church because they view it as feminine. I was speaking at a conference recently when a woman came up to speak with me after my address. I had made a comment about my belief that it wasn’t appropriate for women to serve as preaching pastors. She told me that she was a Methodist minister and that she thought I was wrong. Then she asked me, “What do you do if men won’t rise to the occasion and minister in the church?” I said, “If you’re married and your husband doesn’t read the Bible to the children, then you should read it. If you’re married and your husband won’t take your kids to worship, then you should take them to worship.” But before I could make my next point, she jumped in and said, “I preached last Sunday, and there wasn’t a single man in my congregation.” I looked at her and said, “You know, you may be a cause of that.” She smiled (amazingly!), so I continued: “To correct the problem of the feminization of the church by having women step in and fill the roles that men should be filling is probably not the best way to solve the problem.”

Men need to see God as a King, a Lord, a Warrior, a Defender, a Protector, and a Provider, and that to follow this God will reinforce them as men rather than feminizing them. I try to model this in my preaching, but I also try to emphasize that God has so much tenderness and compassion that no woman could ever think, “Well, I’ve got a male God.” And then I try to embody both of these qualities. I want to be a strong person and a forceful person and a risk-taking person and an adventuresome person. I try to preach with as much gutsy virility as I can. And yet I want to be able to put children in my lap and give them a big hug, and I want to be able to put my arms around elderly people. I want to be tenderhearted and thoughtful and kind and generous. So my first answer to your question is by modeling.

Second, by structuring. I inherited a church with an allmale deacon council. We went through a ten-year process of bringing our church into an understanding of biblical eldership and the fact that elders should be men according to 1 Tim. 2:12. Every year we emphasized that godly, strong, humble men should be the primary initiative takers and leaders in the church. And once you say and model that, and then constitutionalize it as well, you are sending a strong signal to men that they make or break this church. Today we have an all-male council of elders, while deacons can be both men and women. This also has sent a strong signal to women. It’s not that they can’t or shouldn’t minister here; women minister everywhere-and quite competently. But we believe that it is healthy for women to look to men as the primary leaders and responsibility takers in this church, because that is how God has designed us, and following His design will cause both men and women to flourish. Men are the leaders here, and the women love it.

JBMW: Many of us believe that you stand out as a pastor with courage. Why is it that most pastors lack courage? Do churches want pastors with courage? They used to require that pastors have integrity, but now it seems that all they want are pastors who have good manners.

JP: Courage is a much-needed quality in pastors today. We’re having a conference in February 2000 at my church, and I’ve asked Albert Mohler of Southern Seminary and Ben Patterson of Hope College to speak on the theme of “Courage in the Ministry.” Both of these men have exemplified courage because they’ve gone through the “wringer,” and they have something to teach us.

A couple of reasons why courage doesn’t seem to be very common among pastors today: We live in an age where political correctness calls for such tolerance and pluralism and breadth of acceptance that taking a stand for anything controversial or divisive will not be labeled as courageous, but as mean-spirited. Once upon a time, such a stand would have been lauded as courageous, but that is not the adjective people are going to use today. A pastor who draws a line in the sand and says we will go this far and no further as a family, as a church, as a denomination, will be described in ugly language. And most pastors aren’t willing to be slandered like that. They might be willing to die if they look as though they’re dying courageously for truth. But when you take a courageous stand for truth, that is not how you will be perceived and portrayed. You will be described as divisive, insensitive, intolerant, unkind, as majoring on minors-anything to paint the picture as something other than admirable. Courage always sounds admirable, but nobody will use an admirable adjective about you if they don’t like what you’re doing.

We also live in an atheological age, where pastors have lost their nerve doctrinally. They don’t hold enough doctrines with certainty so as to be courageous in the defense of them. They’re not sure if these doctrines are true or important enough. So, when you have an atheological church, you don’t have much to stand for, and if you don’t have much to stand for, you’re not going to need courage. What you are going to need is the managerial skill and therapeutic insight to make the people who are unhappy in your church feel better. The problem here is a failure to see the importance of biblical truth and the doctrinal formulations of it. The church will stand or fall, love will abound or not abound, missions will bear fruit or not bear fruit, on the basis of whether you hold fast to the truth. If you really are a truth-driven person, you will tend to be a courageous person as well, because it takes courage to disagree with people who are departing from the truth, whether they call it courage or not.

JBMW: How has the feminization of discourse affected preaching?

JP: The priority of relationship has replaced the priority of conviction. Today it is more important that we speak in ways that help people feel nurtured and dealt with tenderly and kindly rather than speaking the truth- however it makes people feel. By claiming to be “hurt” by what we say, people hold many pastors hostage and use emotional blackmail to keep pastors from speaking the truth. Many pastors interpret their ministry in terms of meeting felt needs so as to create a climate of family warmth, as opposed to discovering from the Bible essential, glorious truths about God that people desperately need to know and love, whether they know they do or not. And so, this replacement of real needs, theologically, with felt needs, relationally, undermines the nature of preaching as a strong, courageous declaration of the glory of God in an expositional way.

JBMW: You were one of the founders of CBMW. In the twelve years since CBMW was founded, have things become better or worse in the evangelical world with regard to issues of manhood and womanhood?

JP: Both. I would never have dreamed that things could become as good as they have in some sectors, given the trajectories we were on. But things are much worse in other sectors. What stands out most to me over the last twelve years is the fragmentation of evangelicalism. That fragmentation has opened the door both to a profound rejection of biblical teaching on manhood and womanhood in some areas and to a profound affirmation of it in others. Witness the statements adopted by the Southern Baptists and by Campus Crusade. Who would have dreamed twelve years ago that the Southern Baptists would be where they are today? But unfortunately, the struggles in the Christian Reformed Church haven’t gone the same way. In the mainline Protestant churches the battle now is over the ordination of homosexuals, and evangelical churches will probably have to deal with that issue next. Unfortunately, the word ‘evangelical’ has become so elastic that you can’t tell who is an evangelical anymore.

JBMW: Should women be involved in combat?

JP: Not by design. I have no problem with a woman joining her husband to defend their children if they are attacked. But what you’re asking is, “Should it be American policy to plan for women to be drafted into combat alongside men?” The answer to that is absolutely not. There are tactical and strategic reasons that soldiers can tell you about, given the way soldiers have to live with each other and die for each other, in settings where the dynamics between men and women would be utterly out of place and confusing and distracting.

But there is also a fundamental “given” in our being created by God as male and female: The man should feel a strong desire to be the protector in the home, in the church, and in society. One of the ways to put that desire into practice would be to say that we will have an all-male army. This isn’t, in any sense, demeaning toward women, as if to say that women can’t pull a trigger, or fly a jet, or drive a tank, or throw a grenade. Of course they can. It has nothing to do with competency here, although there is a strength factor. It has mainly to do with what is noble, what is beautiful, what is good, what is wholesome, what helps to create not only a workable society where children are raised, but a society that is beautiful in the way men and women relate to each other. One of the beautiful things that God has designed is this: Men are programmed to be soldiers. You can see it in lesser situations where a danger is encountered. The man will feel a noble impulse to try to disarm the aggressor or stand between the aggressor and the woman. He doesn’t push the woman forward fifty percent of the time and say, “It’s your turn to go after the thug this time.” That impulse is just built into a man, and it’s not sin or macho, domineering attitudes that cause this. It’s a God-given desire to be a servant who is willing to die for the protection of the woman. Society will be ripped to pieces if we treat women in a way that puts them forward to receive the bullets of our enemies.

JBMW: What about women in political office? Should we vote for a woman for President?

JP: I feel fuzzier about that one. When a man and a woman have similar qualifications, I’m inclined to think that we should vote for the man. I would probably say it even stronger than that in light of Isaiah 3:12, where part of the judgment of God upon His people is to subject them to being ruled by women. But the reason I say it less forcefully is that there may be exceptions where, in the Providence of God, He wills for a Deborah to rise up and assume a particular role, precisely in order to make a point about the men involved. However, I would hasten to add that the book of Judges is not a book that is filled with normative people, nor does it set forth normative examples of ideal leadership.

JBMW: Where have you and your wife struggled with issues of manhood and womanhood? How do you deal with disagreements? Have you ceded any issues where you disagree, and is such ceding sin?

JP: When a husband and wife disagree, I don’t think it’s sin to concede to the woman, unless the disagreement involves a moral issue, where your conscience is bound by the clear teaching of Scripture and it would be sin to let her have her way. We husbands should give jurisdiction over spheres of domestic activity to our wives and not even ask them to check things out with us. Leadership does not mean that I dictate the way everything is done. Leadership means that I take the bottom-line responsibility to provide a moral atmosphere in the home, where Christ is honored, and everything works smoothly. It means that I take the initiative to get the family to worship, to pray at meals, to lead in family devotions, to discipline our children correctly, to talk through financial and neighborhood issues.

One of the ways I help couples get a handle on leadership is to ask, “Who says, ‘let’s’ more often? The man or the woman?” The man ought to say ‘let’s’ more often: “Let’s talk about the kids, let’s have a state-ofour- marriage discussion, let’s work on our finances, let’s get things in order in the home, let’s take care of our yard better, let’s consider getting a new car.” If the woman is constantly going to her husband and saying, “Let’s, let’s, let’s. . . .” and he’s always dragging his feet, not taking the initiative, she’s going to be a very frustrated woman. She should not have to be the one who says ‘let’s.’ The man should be.

I asked Noel at the beginning of our marriage and have asked her periodically over the last thirty years, “Do you operate happily on the principle that I am generally the initiative taker in this family? And if we cannot agree on an issue, even after many hours of conversation, will you submit to my judgment?” And she has said, “Yes.” Now that does not mean that I always invoke that privilege. But it’s crucial that she give it. That’s what submission is. And a good husband, a good leader, a good lover will often say, “I don’t think we should re-do the bathroom now,” or “I’m not sure we should adopt a child now, but I see where your heart is, and I love to see you flourish. I want to honor your desires, and I believe God is sovereign and will work things out. And for your sake and for your joy, I yield to your choice.” She would have gone either way. She would have let me have it, or she would be happy to hear me give her this choice. That’s not an abdication of leadership. That’s a servant way of handling leadership. And it’s based on the principle of submission, where she says, “You call the shot, and I’ll be happy with whatever you decide.”

JBMW: How have you taught your sons about manhood?

JP: I have four sons, ages 27, 24, 19 and 16, and now a daughter, who is three years old. She was adopted three years ago and has been a wonderful addition to our family. Now I will really come to terms with whether or not I believe in manhood and womanhood as I raise this little girl and watch all of her competencies develop.

With regard to the boys, again, just as in the church, the lion’s share of shaping is done by modeling. They learn a hundred times more by what they observe than by what you tell them. As my boys have grown older, they’ve heard me walk through controversies, they’ve seen me debate thorny issues, they’ve read some of the articles and books I’ve written, they’ve heard me preach week after week, so they know where I stand on these things. Also important is how their mom and dad relate. If a man takes the spiritual initiative, almost everything else is going to fall into place. And by spiritual initiative, I mean, they know that Daddy is the one who is getting up early to pray and read his Bible. Daddy is the one who calls the family together for devotions. He is the one who disciplines them when they disobey (unless he’s not home). He leads his wife in prayer every night. These things are absolutely shaping for young men, and if the wife is flourishing through all that, they can’t help but pick up that this is good, and they will then desire to find a wife who will flourish under their spiritual leadership.

Of course, it’s a huge spiritual battle. That your children become Bible-believing Christians is the main thing. And if they’ve become Christians and they’ve watched you flourish with your wife in a complementary role, then I think they’re going to embrace Scripture’s teaching on manhood and womanhood.

David Wegener

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Jesus and the Feminists: Case Studies in Feminist Hermeneutics

Posted by word4women on September 19, 2009

Introduction: Feminist Approaches to Scripture

There are three general groups of feminists that interact with the Bible in one way or another: (1) radical feminists; (2) reformist feminists; and (3) biblical or evangelical feminists/egalitarians. Radical feminists reject Scripture and Christianity as a whole, owing to what they perceive to be the Bible’s irredeemably patriarchal nature. Their approach is such that they acknowledge what Scripture teaches but proceed to create a theology in conscious opposition to it. Some of these feminists call themselves “post-Christian.”

The same is true to a lesser extent with reformist feminists, except that they do not reject Scripture in its totality but selectively use or discard what does or does not conform to their feminist presuppositions. A reformist feminist typically starts out with the “enlightened notion” that all men— and women—are equal in value and role and then critique and supplement Scripture as they see fit. The authority of Scripture is rejected where it does not conform to their feminist outlook. Additional writings that reflect more closely their own beliefs are included in their canon as well. Some of these reformist feminists are very radical in the views that they espouse. Also, it is not uncommon for feminists to move from a more conservative to a more radical stance over time.

Evangelical or biblical feminism, a movement also called “egalitarianism” due to its emphasis on the full equality of men and women, professes commitment to scriptural inspiration and authority. This movement represents an effort within evangelicalism to revisit the traditional interpretation of gender passages in the Bible, including Jesus’ perspective on women, in order to align it with a notion of gender equality. Within an inerrantist framework, egalitarians consider themselves to be both evangelical/biblical and feminist. While radical and reformist feminists rally around the notion of liberation from oppression, evangelical feminists adopt equality as their central tenet.

The teaching of Gal 3:28 that in Christ “there is neither male nor female” serves as the key biblical text by which all other teachings of Scripture on gender issues are measured. Egalitarians have a higher view of Scripture than radical or reformist feminists. Unlike the latter, who already start out with the presupposition that feminism is right and the Bible wrong where it stands in conflict with feminism (in effect practicing a deductive method), evangelical feminists claim to show inductively that the Bible, rightly interpreted, teaches male-female equality, including women’s eligibility to all church offices and roles of leadership in the church.

In this article, I will present case studies of radical and reformist feminists and in conclusion explore implications for egalitarianism. The radical feminist case study considers Daphne Hampson, and the reformist feminist case study considers Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza.

Radical Feminism Case Study: Daphne Hampson

Biography

Daphne Hampson is a prominent radical feminist in Britain. Hampson started her career as a historian in Oxford, England. She completed a Harvard doctorate in systematic theology and in 1977 assumed a post as Lecturer in systematic theology at the University of Saint Andrews, Scotland. Hampson took a leading part in the campaign to allow women to be ordained to the priesthood in the Anglican Church. She now considers herself a “post-Christian feminist” (see, for example, her work After Christianity, published in 1996) and holds that Christianity and feminism are incompatible and that Christianity is a mere myth.2 Convinced that feminism represents the death-knell of Christianity as a viable religious option,3 Hampson is seeking for new ways to conceptualize God that are in continuity with the Western tradition.

In Search for Alternate Paradigms

In her search for alternate paradigms, Hampson critiques the work of other, less radical, reformist feminists, and she writes that the problem with their approaches is that they still seek to place themselves within “the trajectory of biblical religion.”4 Once one accepts some form of Scripture’s authority, Hampson contends, one assumes that Christianity is in some sense true. If a basically critical stance toward Scripture is adopted, such an assumption of scriptural authority is no longer warranted. As a result, Hampson adopts what she calls a “post-Christian position.”5

In her search for suitable paradigms, Hampson posits the “paradigm of mutual empowerment” as a basis for constructing her religion.6 “Can this paradigm be found in the Judeo-Christian tradition?” Hampson asks. At the very outset, she rejects the Trinity as a possible candidate, since it contains an element of hierarchy and dependence, with the Son submitting to and depending on the Father. Jesus’ life, too, according to Hampson, did not model a paradigm of mutual empowerment. Jesus was not a feminist, and there is “no evidence that the equality of women was even an issue in the society in which he lived.”7 Jesus did not challenge the secondary role women played in Jewish religion, and he accepted the prevailing male and female roles in his society. He also referred to God as his Father.

To be sure, perhaps against the mores of his day, he permitted a woman to sit and learn at his feet, but we “have no picture of Jesus sitting at a woman’s feet, learning from her.”8 Jesus (and Paul) may have been personally kind to women, even ahead of their time, but this does not make them feminists. For this reason God, as traditionally conceived, and Jesus, seen as God or as symbolic of God, are unusable as sources for the feminist paradigm of mutual empowerment.

Feminism vs. Christianity

According to Hampson, women “have no use for a God who condescends to be with them in their weakness. Paternalism fits ill with feminism.”9 She claims that women want to be whole, self-directed, free, and interdependent with others. They want a God who does not override their will and who is non-dominative.10 Hampson calls for “a model of the self as being related in its very being to God,” whereby God does not stand over against women as one “who could potentially dominate us, or who could suggest an action which to carry out would be for us to act heteronomously.”11 She expresses the need for a utopian world in which power is not exercised, in which the few do not coerce the many, or one sex does not dominate the other—a world in which service and self-giving which are unproductive for the one who serves and gives is reduced to a minimum.12 Feminism, she says, is the “last great hope” for our world.

Hampson presents a stirring vision but one that, as Hampson herself states, is at variance with the biblical message regarding the nature of God, Jesus, and many other facets of scriptural teaching. In fact, the only reason Hampson still refers to Christianity is to position her vision of feminism against it. In essence, feminism is whatever Christianity is not.

Feminism is self-actualizing rather than selfgiving. It is assertive of its independence and autonomy rather than service-oriented, since service gives up self while feminism is all about reclaiming power over self. Feminism is strong rather than weak and self-sufficient rather than dependent.

Remarkably, this radical egalitarianism extends even to God, the Creator. In order for Hampson’s vision of feminism to be realized, God must be one of us. He must be like us, for any form of power is excluded.13 There is also no need for the cross, for Hampson denies any need for women to come to God in dependence, weakness, or need. Everything that the cross of Jesus Christ represents—service, self-sacrifice, loving self-denial—is excluded from Hampson’s feminist vision.

Christianity as Myth

Further insight into Hampson’s thought is provided by an interview in which Hampson says that she is not a Christian because she believes Christianity is a mere myth, and she cannot “conform to the kind of view of ‘woman’ that there is within this myth.”14 According to Hampson, feminism has brought about a revolution in the way in which women are conceived, and there must be no return to a society in which women are assigned a place to which they must conform.15

After working for the ordination of women in the Anglican Church, Hampson took a feminist “leap into maturity” in the conviction that one can be a religious and spiritual person without believing in Christian doctrine.16 In her interview, Hampson says that in her late teens she discovered that some people think Jesus is God. She was “amazed and horrified,” because she found this completely unbelievable.17 At the same time, she was told that Jesus had died for her sins. She could not accept this either. At the most, Jesus “was a very fine human being who loved God”—no more.18 As for the Bible, Hampson regards it as “just part of human literature in which people had recorded their experience and awareness of God.” There is no way in which she would consider the Bible inspired in a way that other literature is not.19

Hampson believes that “we need to be deeply in tune with who we most truly are.”20 We must come home to ourselves so as to find ourselves and realize who we are meant to be. Hampson defines the problem with Christianity as its being a religion of revelation with a transcendent God who is other than humankind, and, by definition, it holds that there has been a revelation in a past period of human history.21 This kind of heteronomy (subjection to the rule of another) is impossible for Hampson: “I have got to see myself, in my relation to others, as at the centre of my world … a law unto myself … and not be a slave to anything which is outside myself.”22

Hampson’s Rejection of Christianity

“Christianity is a Father-Son religion [and as such] has no place for independent, adult women who are self-directing people.”23 Why would a woman want to see herself as “in Christ”? “Why should she relate to God through someone else?”24 For her, therefore, Christianity is most profoundly at odds with the central tenets of feminism, and being a “Christian feminist” is an improper conception of one’s identity. Hampson’s view of God, Jesus, and the Bible places her outside the church and outside Christianity. Outside the Christian faith is a place she desires for herself, and she sees it as the only place any truly radical feminist woman can legitimately occupy.

Evaluation

Like other radical feminists, Hampson’s hermeneutic is based on a rejection of Scripture as inextricably patriarchal and of Christianity as untrue. From this rejection follows Hampson’s quest for alternate approaches to theology that are suitable for feminists seeking to reshape a world more in keeping with their ideals.

In contrast to most reformist feminists and virtually all evangelical feminists, Hampson acknowledges that Jesus was not a feminist. Rather than engage in a revisionist reading of the biblical evidence, she is able to discern that the biblical portrayal of Jesus, while showing him as reaching out to women, does not have him challenge the prevailing male and female roles in society at the time of Jesus. In this she is to be commended for her intellectual clarity.

Hampson indicates that she has no placefor Jesus Christ in her theological system. First, she does not believe that he was divine. Second, in upholding the ideal of people coming to terms with their true inner selves she denies that humans are sinful and thus in need of salvation. Third, she questions why anyone would want to be “in Christ” and thus relate to God through someone else. Fourth, this removes the notion of the church as the company of those “in Christ,” as Hampson propagates herself “a law unto herself.” This shows that ultimately biblical Christianity and feminism cannot co-exist. In stark opposition to reformist and evangelical feminist approaches to Scripture, Hampson accurately discerns that being a “Christian feminist” is a contradiction in terms.

Yet every one of Hampson’s beliefs regarding Jesus is itself open to question. Many have pointed to Jesus’ performance of numerous miracles; the fulfillment of countless scriptural prophecies in Jesus’ life and ministry; the fact that the rapid rise of early Christianity is best explained by the fact that Jesus actually rose from the dead; and the presence of a plethora of eyewitnesses who could have countered the apostles’ account of events surrounding Jesus in their early preaching. None of this removes the need for faith in the biblical testimony, but Christians do have a proper basis for belief in the scriptural record, and radical feminists such as Hampson ignore Jesus to their eternal peril.

While someone who adheres to historic biblical Christianity will obviously not agree with Hampson’s feminist vision and her view of Christianity as myth, she is to be commended for the consistency with which she holds and develops her approach and for her clear understanding of Christian doctrine and tenets. If Christianity were indeed a myth, there is no reason why anyone should embrace the view of women within that myth. Despite this, Hampson continues to engage Christianity in her work.

Hampson’s exceptional clarity of thought also appropriately discerns that Christianity and Scripture do contain a clear emphasis on male authority. Her condemnation of any approaches that seek to diminish the androcentric bias of Scripture by uncovering feminine images for God or female role models in Scripture is also consistent from within her frame of reference. Her writings also helpfully expose the weakness of other positions, such as evangelical feminism and aspects of reformist feminism, that strenuously work to find the feminist viewpoint validated in Scripture.

Reformist Feminism Case Study: Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza

Introduction

Who do reformist feminists say that Jesus is? The major difference between radical and reformist feminist scholars is that the former reject the Bible and the Judeo-Christian tradition wholesale, whereas the latter opt to stay within the Christian tradition and seek to reform it from within. Such reformist efforts include the use of gender-inclusive language, the reinterpretation of biblical texts, and historical criticism. Reformist feminists do not consider Scripture to be inerrant or authoritative, though they do use it in their theological formulation and reflection.

Biography

Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza can rightly be considered the matriarch of North American feminism. She was born in Romania in 1938 and fled with her family to what would become West Germany during World War II. Fiorenza, who identifies herself as a Roman Catholic, earned her master of divinity degree from the University of Würzburg and her doctorate from the University of Münster, both in Germany. Her thesis was published in 1964 as her first book, titled The Forgotten Partner: Foundations, Facts and Possibilities of the Professional Ministry of Women in the Church. Originally her doctoral thesis bore the title “Priest for God: A Study of the Motif of the Kingdom and Priesthood in the Apocalypse.”

Fiorenza has served for many years as the Krister Stendahl Professor of Divinity at Harvard Divinity School. Before assuming her position at Harvard, she taught as professor of New Testament Studies at the University of Notre Dame and the Episcopal Divinity School. Fiorenza was the first woman elected to the post of president of the Society of Biblical Literature and has served on the editorial boards of many biblical journals and societies. Fiorenza is the cofounder (with Judith Plaskow) and editor of the Journal of Feminist Studies in Religion and a coeditor of Concilium, an international theological review in the Roman Catholic tradition. She has served with the Women’s Ordination Conference, Sisters against Sexism, Feminist Theological Institute, Women Scholars in Religion, Women in Theology, and Women Moving Church.

In Memory of Her

While there were precursors in the 1970s, Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza’s historical reconstruction of early Christian origins, particularly as it relates to Jesus’ and the early church’s treatment of women, has been by far the most influential in the past several decades. In her major work In Memory of Her (1983), Fiorenza proposes a fourfold hermeneutic:

(1) a hermeneutic of suspicion toward traditional interpretations of biblical texts owing to patriarchal bias and assumptions;
(2) a hermeneutic of remembrance that uncovers women’s agency in foundational Christian tradition;
(3) a hermeneutic of proclamation that relates this reconstruction to the Christian community; and
(4) a hermeneutic of imagination that expresses feminism in ritual, prayer, hymns, banners, and art.25

In the book Fiorenza uses a form of the historical-critical method to reconstruct early Christian origins, particularly with regard to Jesus’ treatment of women and the status of women in the early church. In Fiorenza’s own words, her primary objective in In Memory of Her is “to reconstruct early Christian history as women’s history in order not only to restore women’s stories to early Christian history but also to reclaim this history as the history of women and men.”26 Applying historical and sociological criticism to the Gospels, Fiorenza contends that the Gospels show Jesus standing in judgment over the kind of marginalization of women practiced today. Thus, female subordination is not part of the original gospel but a result of Christianity’s accommodation to Greco-Roman culture.

Taking her cue from Elizabeth Cady Stanton and The Woman’s Bible (1895, 1898), Fiorenza affirms that biblical interpretation is a political act, and she espouses a liberation theology model of biblical interpretation.27 For Fiorenza, “a feminist reconstitution of the world requires a feminist hermeneutic that shares in the critical methods and impulses of historical scholarship on the one hand and in the theological goals of liberation theologies on the other hand.”28

Fiorenza’s concludes, “The revelatory canon for theological evaluation of biblical androcentric traditions and their subsequent interpretations cannot be derived from the Bible itself but can only be formulated in and through women’s struggle for liberation from all patriarchal oppression.”29 In other words, “only those traditions and texts that critically break through patriarchal culture … have the theological authority of revelation.”30 Significantly, Fiorenza finds “such revelation … in the life and ministry of Jesus as well as in the discipleship community of equals called forth by him.”31

Further on in her work In Memory of Her, Fiorenza attempts to reconstruct women’s history as “the history of the discipleship of equals.” Fiorenza understands the “Jesus movement” as a renewal movement within Judaism that presented an alternative to the dominant patriarchal restrictions in that culture.32 According to Fiorenza, Jesus’ vision of the kingdom includes the praxis of inclusive wholeness.33 Jesus’ healings, his table fellowship with sinners, and his accepting attitude toward all are cited as proofs of this new approach on his part.

After quoting Luke 7:35, “wisdom is justified by all her children,” Fiorenza makes the claim that divine Sophia served as Israel’s God and that “the Palestinian Jesus movement understood the mission of Jesus as that of the prophet and child of Sophia.”34 Sophia, the female deity, was also the driving force behind Jesus’ pursuit of a “discipleship of equals.” She concludes,

As a feminist vision, the basileia [kingdom] vision of Jesus calls all women without exception to wholeness and selfhood, as well as to solidarity with those women who are the impoverished, the maimed, and outcasts of our society and church. It knows of the deadly violence such a vision and commitment will encounter. It enables us not to despair or to relinquish the struggle in the face of such violence. It empowers us to walk upright, freed from the double oppression of societal and religious sexism and prejudice. The woman-identified man, Jesus, called forth a discipleship of equals that still needs to be discovered and realized by women and men today.35

Critiques of Fiorenza

Fiorenza’s reconstruction of early Christianity has held virtually paradigmatic status among feminist biblical scholarship for the better part of two decades. In recent years, however, increasingly voices made themselves heard, even in feminist circles, that began to question the historical merits of Fiorenza’s proposal. Representative critics include Kathleen Corley and John H. Elliott. What is particularly significant is that these critiques are coming from within the feminist movement rather than merely from non-feminists. It is not only non-egalitarians who are questioning the notion that Jesus was an egalitarian but feminists themselves who are committed to responsible historical research have come to the realization that the view of a “feminist Jesus” is historically untenable.

Kathleen Corley

Kathleen Corley, who holds a master of arts and a doctor of philosophy in religion from Claremont Graduate School, mounts a major challenge to Fiorenza’s paradigm of Jesus as a first-century Jewish feminist in her book Women and the Historical Jesus (2002). Corley, who serves as Oshkosh Northwestern Distinguished Professor at the University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh, where she has taught since 1992, forcefully contends that Fiorenza unduly imposes her feminism onto the biblical and historical record, and other feminists agree.

Thus at the very outset of her book Women and the Historical Jesus: Feminist Myths of Christian Origins (2002), Corley, in a reference to Fiorenza’s landmark work In Memory of Her, calls the notion that Jesus established a discipleship of equals a “feminist myth of Christian origins.”36 Summarizing her own conclusions, Corley writes,

While this study affirms the role of women in Jesus’ own community and in subsequent Jesus movements, it challenges both the assumption that Jesus himself fought ancient patriarchal limitations on women and the hypothesis that the presence of women among his disciples was unique within Hellenistic Judaism. Rather, an analysis of Jesus’ teaching suggests that while Jesus censured the class and status distinctions of his culture, that critique did not extend to unequal gender distinctions. The notion that Jesus established an anti-patriarchal movement or a “discipleship of equals” is a myth posited to buttress modern Christian social engineering.37

It is significant that Corley—a member of a scholarly group of critical scholars called the Jesus Seminar—reaches her conclusions on the basis of historical research, the very method that led Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza to the diametrically opposite conclusion that Jesus was, in fact, pursuing an egalitarian agenda. According to Corley, while Jesus was concerned for Jewish monotheism and expressed an interest in class and rank, “he did not address the concern most central to modern women—inequality between the sexes.”38 Rather, as Corley notes, Jesus reaffirmed marriage, “the major hierarchical social relationship between a man and a woman that was considered the bedrock of the state in antiquity” (Mark 10:1-12 pars.).39

Corley observes that the reigning consensus among the members of the Jesus Seminar, many of whom were influenced by the scholarship of Schüssler Fiorenza, affirms that “Jesus preached a kind of social egalitarianism that pitted him against the social and religious hierarchies of his day.”40 Corley cites a litany of scholars who refer to Jesus as a feminist, labeling his acceptance of women as revolutionary, radical, unique, reformational, or unprecedented in the ancient world, including Palestine.41

However, while the vision of an egalitarian “society of Jesus” that eventually gave way to a patriarchal backlash by the second- and third-century institutional church may provide an ideal rallying point as a “foundational myth for Christian feminism,” Corley argues that this reconstruction is historically untenable and unsupported by the available sources, including the Gospels.

In the conclusion to Women and the Historical Jesus, Corley helpfully summarizes her major findings. First, she writes, “The group around Jesus cannot be characterized as a ‘discipleship of equals,’ since probably only a few women were members of the predominantly male group; … the limited participation of women does not suggest a group focused on equality or equal representation.”42 Second, Jesus’ concern was more broadly for the poor and the marginalized in society than for women’s rights specifically: “The women seem to be around Jesus more as a matter of course than as a result of a gender-equal vision of the Kingdom of God.” Any such concerns came to the fore only subsequent to Jesus’ ministry.43 Third, women around Jesus continued to be involved in traditionally female roles such as mourning the dead and participating in funerary rites and gravesite rituals.44

Overall, Corley finds a certain amount of common ground with Fiorenza while remaining largely critical of her overall paradigm. In her work Jesus and the Politics of Interpretation, Fiorenza has responded to an earlier essay by Corley. However, Fiorenza did not advance any significant new evidence in support of her historical reconstruction of Jesus’ stance toward women in In Memory of Her. For this reason Corley’s main critique continues to be valid, and other voices have added further critiques that undermine the validity of Fiorenza’s paradigm of the “egalitarian Jesus.”

John H. Elliott

John Elliott is another who critiques the notion that Jesus instituted an egalitarian community. Elliott, professor emeritus of theology and religious studies at the University of San Francisco, contends that Fiorenza’s theory is implausible both socially and politically in light of the available textual and historical evidence. According to Elliott, the notion of the egalitarian Jesus does not square with the actual historical and social nature of the nascent Jesus movement and represents an instance of the “idealist fallacy,” that is, the improper practice of confusing one’s own preferred ideology with actual reality. Elliott summarizes his concerns as follows.

(1) Those who find egalitarianism in the New Testament interpret texts anachronistically by imposing a post-Enlightenment concept onto the first-century world. The concept of equality is of modern origin and alien to the thought world and social reality of the ancient world:

The notion that all persons are created equal and endowed with certain inalienable rights is a construct of the modern Enlightenment and thoroughly alien to the thinking of the ancient world. There the prevailing notion was rather that humans were by nature born unequal and this unalterable inequality was evident physically, socially, and ethnically.45

(2) “Equality” terminology (iso-) is never used in the New Testament to convey the notion of gender or other equality but rather that of equity or sameness.46

(3) The biblical texts cited in support of Jesus’ establishment of an egalitarian society are better interpreted on the presumption of inequality of social status. Jesus’ teaching regarding the reversal of status presumes the existence of status in the first place (e.g., Mark 9:35-37 par.; see Mark 10:13-15 par.). This includes differences in status between disciple and teacher (Luke 6:40; Matt 10:24-25; John 13:16; 15:20); parents and children (Mark 7:11-13; 10:19 pars.); and husbands and wives (Matt 5:31-32; 19:9).

(4) No concrete historical or social evidence exists that Jesus instituted a community of equals. There is no evidence in the writings of Josephus, Pliny, Tacitus, Suetonius, or any other extrabiblical author.

(5) The primary New Testament text cited in support of egalitarianism, Gal 3:28, pertains to the unity of believers in Christ, not their equality, affirming inclusivity with regard to ethnic, social, and gender boundaries rather than leveling all status distinctions.

(6) The equation between patriarchy and dominance customarily made by feminists does not hold.

(7) The egalitarian hypothesis is not borne out by the available historical evidence but rather constitutes an instance of the “idealist fallacy.”

(8) Insufficient thought is given to the practical implementation of an egalitarian vision into concrete social reality. From a sociological point of view, Jesus’ establishment of an egalitarian community would have required dramatic changes in the social structures of his day.

(9) The thesis has been rejected by feminist scholars such as Mary Rose D’Angelo, Amy-Jill Levine, and Kathleen Corley owing to its lack of historical support.

(10) The notion of Jesus’ establishment of a community of equals fails to account for Jesus’ reaffirmation of the family as the primary social structure and as instituted by God.

Elliott concludes the first part of his study:

By imputing to the biblical authors a modern concept of equality that is not found in the Bible and the ancient world and by allowing this imputed concept to determine their interpretation of the New Testament, they have produced an interpretation that distorts and obscures the actual content and thrust of these texts. Such an interpretative procedure appears [to be] more eisegesis than exegesis and deserves to [be] rejected as a[n] unhappy example [of] interpretive method. An anachronistic imputation of modern notions to the biblical authors should be challenged and resisted in the name of historical honesty wherever and however it occurs. To be sure, let us expend every ounce of energy it takes to reform the ills of society and church. But let us do so with historical honesty, respecting the past as past and not trying to recreate it with modern constructs or re-write it with new ideological pens.47

In a sequel, Elliott investigates Fiorenza’s theory with regard to circumstances subsequent to Jesus’ death. According to Elliott, “The egalitarian theory fares no better in clarifying the structure of the Jesus movement after Jesus’ death than it does in explaining the nature of the community established by Jesus.”48 Not only is the concept of equality or egalitarianism historically incompatible with first-century conditions, but there is no evidence of egalitarianism in the New Testament or any other ancient source. Elliott concludes,

On a personal note, I must confess that I have not enjoyed mounting this critique. With every fibre of my egalitarian being I wish it were demonstrable that the Jesus movement had been egalitarian, at least at some point in its early history. This surely would make it easier for today’s advocates of equality, among whom I count myself, to appeal to our past as a source of inspiration and moral guidance for the present. But, as the historical and ideological critic in all of us insists, wishing and politically correct ideology cannot not [sic] make it so. Ultimately, this well-intentioned theory is an unhappy example of anachronism and idealist thinking that must be challenged not just because it is indemonstrable or an example of flawed interpretation but also because it is so seductive. The notion that the Jesus movement ever formed a “community of equals” founded by Jesus is a phantasm, a fata morgana, a wish still awaiting incarnation. If the church were ever to put an egalitarian vision into practice, it would be a first-time event and an accomplishment that eluded even Jesus and his first followers.49

Conclusion

In light of these concerns registered by feminists on historical and other grounds, Fiorenza’s historical reconstruction of the Jesus movement and of early Christianity would seem to require significant revision. Over the past few decades, Fiorenza’s model has served as a powerful “myth of Christian origins” for the feminist movement. However, the above points of critique call for developing an alternative broad understanding of Jesus’ approach to women and of the early church’s practice concerning women, particularly with regard to their participation in roles of leadership.

Conclusion

In this article, I have given a representative overview of radical and reformist feminist approaches to Jesus’ view of women by way of selected case studies. We have seen that radical feminists, such as Daphne Hampson, typically regard Jesus as unacceptably patriarchal. They view Christianity as a whole as a Father-Son religion that cannot be reconciled with feminism, and, as a result, have little or no use for the Bible in formulating and implementing their feminist vision.

Reformist feminists, too, critique Scripture for what they perceive as its “patriarchal bias,” but many, such as Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza, hold that Jesus’ approach to women can serve as a usable paradigm for feminists. As we have seen, however, many feminists now are critical of Fiorenza’s contention that Jesus established an egalitarian “discipleship of equals.” I conclude with a few observations concerning the relevance of this study.

(1) Radical and reformist feminists generally do not agree on who Jesus was. Was he patriarchal, as radical feminists contend, or was he a feminist, as reformists such as Fiorenza believe? Both cannot be right. This means that while radical and reformist feminists share a feminist vision, they do not agree on who Jesus is.

(2) As we have seen, even among reformist feminists Fiorenza’s paradigm has begun to crumble. Reformist feminists no longer rally behind the notion that Jesus was a feminist, and the erosion of Fiorenza’s paradigm has led to confusion in reformist circles. If anything, there is an emerging consensus that the historical evidence does not bear out the notion that Jesus was a feminist, even though he was more open to women than other Jewish rabbis of his day. Feminists today who want to implement their vision cannot legitimately ground their paradigm in Jesus.

(3) Many of the critiques lodged by feminists against Fiorenza’s paradigm also pertain to the egalitarian view of Jesus. Egalitarians say that Jesus was an egalitarian or feminist. As inerrantists, they are committed to the notion that whatever the Bible says regarding Jesus, this the church today ought to practice. However, fewer and fewer reformist feminists embrace the idea of an egalitarian Jesus on the basis of the available historical evidence and other factors.

Yet while reformists are free to dispose of the notion of an egalitarian Jesus because they are not committed to biblical inerrancy, egalitarians are not at liberty to dismiss the tenet that Jesus’ practice and teaching were egalitarian. Thus egalitarians are found to continue upholding a paradigm—the egalitarian Jesus—that is increasingly and legitimately being discredited and discarded even by other feminists.


Endnotes

1 This article includes some representative case studies from my new book Jesus and the Feminists: Who Do They Say That He Is? (Wheaton: Crossway, 2008). It is printed here with permission.

This is not a summary of the entire book, and the case studies also are not a substitute for reading the book where I discuss and critique many other feminist authors with regard to their view of Jesus’ approach to women.

2 “BISFT Interview with Dr. Daphne Hampson,” Feminist Theology 17 (1998): 39.

3 Daphne Hampson, Theology and Feminism (Oxford: Blackwell, 1990), 1.

4 “Interview,” 35, 37.

5 Ibid., 41; Daphne Hampson, After Christianity (Valley Forge, PA: Trinity Press International, 1996).

6 Daphne Hampson, “On Power and Gender,” Modern Theology 4, no. 3 (1988): 234-50.

7 Ibid., 247.

8 Ibid.

9 Ibid., 248.

10 Ibid.

11 Ibid.

12 Ibid., 248-49.

13 Ibid.

14 “Interview,” 39.

15 Ibid., 43.

16 Ibid., 50.

17 Ibid., 49.

18 Ibid.

19 Ibid., 50.

20 For the role of religious consciousness in the work of Friedrich Schleiermacher (1768-1834) see William Baird, History of New Testament Research, Volume One: From Deism to Tübingen (Minneapolis: Fortress, 1992), 208-20.

21 “Interview,” 51.

22 Ibid.

23 Ibid., 54.

24 Ibid., 55.

25 Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza, “Emerging Issues in Feminist Biblical Interpretation,” in Christian Feminism: Visions of a New Humanity (ed. J. L. Weidman; San Francisco: Harper & Row, 1984), 47-84; see idem, In Memory of Her: A Feminist Theological Reconstruction of Christian Origins (New York: Crossroad/Herder & Herder, 1994), xxiii, 26-36; V. C. Phillips, “Feminist Interpretation,” in Dictionary of Biblical Interpretation (ed. J. H. Hayes. Nashville: Abingdon, 1999), 393-94; Mary A. Kassian, The Feminist Mistake: The Radical Impact of Feminism on Church and Culture (Wheaton: Crossway, 2005), 131-38. For an application of Fiorenza’s hermeneutic to a specific text of Scripture, Luke 10:38-42, see Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza, “A Feminist Critical Interpretation for Liberation: Martha and Mary: Lk. 10:39-42,” Religion & Intellectual Life 3, no. 2 (1986): 21-36.

26 Fiorenza, In Memory of Her, xiv (emphasis added).

27 Ibid., 7-21.

28 Ibid., 29.

29 Ibid., 32.

30 Ibid., 33.

31 Ibid., 34 (emphasis added).

32 Ibid., 107.

33 Ibid., 119, citing Luke 17:21; and 122, citing Luke 1:52-53.

34 Ibid., 135. She develops this in book-length form in Jesus: Miriam’s Child, Sophia’s Prophet. Critical Issues in Feminist Christology (New York: Continuum, 1994); see below.

35 Ibid., 153-54 (emphasis added). See also her later book Jesus and the Politics of Interpretation (New York: Continuum, 2000).

36 See already Kathleen Corley, “The Egalitarian Jesus: A Christian Myth of Origins,” Forum New Series 1-2 (1988): 291-325 and the discussion in the previous chapter.

37 Kathleen Corley, Women and the Historical Jesus: Feminist Myths of Christian Origins (Santa Rosa, CA: Polebridge, 2002), 1.

38 Ibid., 4.

39 Ibid.

40 Ibid., 7.

41 Ibid., 10; see 148, notes 13-18.

42 Ibid., 143.

43 Ibid., 144.

44 Ibid., 144-45.

45 John H. Elliott, “Jesus Was Not an Egalitarian. A Critique of an Anachronistic and Idealist Theory,” Biblical Theology Bulletin 32, no. 3 (2002): 77.

46 Ibid., 78, 84, citing the instances of isos in Matt 20:12; Mark 14:46, 59; Luke 6:34; John 5:18; Acts 11:17; Phil 2:6; Rev 21:16; of isotēs in 1 Cor 8:13-14; Col 4:1; of isotimos in 2 Pet 1:1; and of isopsychos in Phil 2:20.

47 Ibid., 90.

48 John H. Elliott, “The Jesus Movement Was Not Egalitarian but Family-Oriented,” Biblical Interpretation 11, no. 2 (2003): 204.

49 Ibid., 205-6.

 

Margaret Köstenberger

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Keeping the Peace – Writing E-mail that will not Stir up Conflict

Posted by word4women on September 18, 2009

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Recently I received an email that puzzled and hurt me. The email was requesting I do something I had been asked several times before to do and inferred that I was ignoring the requests. First, I checked my attititude as I called my husband to come and read. I KNOW that email can sound harsh when no offense is meant but this was VERY pointed. I went back through my recent correspondence. There was the first and only request….hum…. had the author added “multiple times” to make a point?  I did not think so. Then how could a simple request have snowballed into hurt feelings and harsh sounding emails?  In this case it suddenly became clear that the problem had occured as a result of an auto send feature.  My friend had asked I delete a particular email. I hit delete and considered it done….not so simple! Everything is linked to everything these days… Moral of the story…. don’t over react to an email. Remember you really cannot communicate tone or intent by short words in an email.  A favorite author or mine, Carolyn McCulley addresses just this issue in the following article. I encourage you to read this and if you had been shooting ugly emails back and forth with someone…… follow her advice.

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The sentence resonated ominously across cyberspace. To the recipient, it dripped of condescending sarcasm. To the sender—me—it was a simple request for information. But there I was, not long into a new job, staring red-faced at the computer screen, fighting hot tears of embarrassment.

I had received an e-mail from an esteemed colleague who was displeased with my previous e-mail correspondence, and was questioning my “tone.”

Tone?! With no vocal cues or body language to set the “tone,” I wondered how I’d managed to communicate one. Should I have added a smiling emoticon, or would that have looked too much like a smirk?

My mind raced back to other similar situations where e-mail had thrown a wrench into even simple communication. For a fleeting moment, I was tempted to announce a full-scale retreat from the online world. Instead, I wiped my tears and pursued no-tech, face-to-face biblical reconciliation.

Unfortunately, my experience with misconstrued e-mail is not unique.

Ken Sande, founder of Peacemaker Ministries and author of The Peacemaker, says e-mail has added an extra wrinkle in business and personal communications.

As a former attorney and now a professional Christian mediator and lecturer, Sande increasingly has had to guide ministry and church staffs, as well as other groups, through friction that originated in e-mail or other online communications.

“People are much more careful in how they write a letter on paper than they are in how they communicate through e-mail,” he says. “The further you get away from a face-to-face communication, the more you lose your message-sending capabilities. It’s not good enough to communicate so that you can be understood, you must communicate so clearly that you cannot be misunderstood. There’s a huge difference.”

So how do we avoid problems? Here are ten practical tips for being a peacemaker online:

1. Start with an affirmative greeting. Sande points to Paul’s Epistles as a prime example of this practice. “These letters begin with statements like, ‘My brothers, I always rejoice when I think of you.’ When Paul has to do some stern correction, he spends virtually the first chapter just encouraging them, affirming his love, and the goodness of God toward these people. Those are tremendous illustrations of how to communicate—online or in real life.”

2. Look carefully at the first few sentences of your letter. They generally set the tone for how the rest of the letter will be received. “A little bit of a personal touch up front can cast other words in a very positive light,” Sande says.

3. Requote sections of letters you’ve received. That helps keep the thread of the conversation, and shows your recipient that you’re really “listening.”

4. Re-read your words. Can they be understood in any other way than what you intend? Is it obvious to the recipient that you have a spirit of inquiry, and not of assumption?

5. Don’t rely on gimmicky “emoticons.” Though emoticons [like the overused :) ] can help establish your tone, don’t rely on them to soften phrases that could be misinterpreted. Rewrite your sentence, instead, with the goal of precise communication.

6. Honor the biblical standards about gossip, especially because e-mail can be forwarded without your consultation. A good barometer of when you’re gossiping is whether you’d be embarrassed to have the object of your letter receive it accidentally. The same applies to forwarding e-mail you have received.

7. Keep it as brief as possible. If you’re having problems with someone, don’t dump an entire “case history” of your concerns in your first letter. A brief summary of the problem and an invitation to converse further will give the recipient time to respond, and give you the ability to choose your words in light of that response. Sande suggests using words like, “Could we talk about this?” and “I heard you did this, and it doesn’t seem to be consistent with what I’ve heard from you before. I’d sure like to hear your side of the story.

8. Don’t assume people know your mind. If you’re sending potentially negative correspondence, “Don’t assume the recipient knows you still think they’re a good or competent person,” says Sande. “Be explicit about it. Say, ‘Even though I’m disappointed in this particular thing, I know this is not your normal style.’ Give them the benefit of the doubt and clearly communicate your attitude toward them.”

9. Don’t send difficult letters right away. Save them as a draft and read them again the next day with fresh eyes.

10. Use questions wisely—not to make accusations. “Saying, ‘Didn’t I tell you to keep your bike out of the driveway?’ is not a question, it’s an accusation,” Sande says. “I regularly get copies of people’s letters in conflicts, and I’m almost embarrassed at the way some Christian people use questions in, frankly, a way attorneys do—it’s cross-examination.”

 

This article was orginally printed in Christianity Online (Spring 2000, Volume 1, No. 4) and is reprinted by permission

Carolyn McCulley is a freelance writer who lives in Germantown, Maryland. She writes for both the Christian media, including CHRISTIANITY TODAY and Christian Single, and the mainstream media, including The Washington Post.

 

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A Better Way to Handle Abuse

Posted by word4women on September 17, 2009

As promised earlier here is the first of several upcoming posts on handling abuse. Whether you are the abused, the abuser or someone who knows of abuse. Please read this it could save someones life….spiritually and physically.

 

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Sexual abuse in the church does not have to end in broken lives, agonizing lawsuits, and divided congregations. When people follow God’s ways and words, these terrible incidents can result in healing, justice, and healthier churches.

When victims of abuse first come forward, I have found that most of them are seeking four reasonable responses. First, they are looking for understanding, compassion, and emotional support. Second, they want the church to admit that the abuse occurred and to acknowledge that it was wrong. Third, they want people to take steps to protect others from similar harm. And fourth, they expect compensation for the expense of needed counseling.

As national headlines reveal, many churches have unwisely ignored these legitimate needs. Instead, like many other institutions, they have blindly followed their lawyers’ and insurance adjusters’ textbook strategy to avoid legal liability. They try to cover up the offense and deny responsibility. All too often they distance themselves from the victims and their families, leaving them feeling betrayed and abandoned.

Many frustrated victims eventually talk to a lawyer who tells them they could win a million-dollar damages award. Soon everyone is locked in an adversarial process that reopens wounds and generates even more pain and anger. Whatever the verdict, both sides lose, since money alone can never heal the wounds of abuse.

There is a better way.

God is a redeemer and a problem-solver. He has designed a powerful peacemaking strategy for dealing with offenses between people, including sexual abuse. When churches follow it, as I will show later, the cycle of abuse is broken and restoration can begin.

Compassion – If there is one place that victims of abuse should find understanding, compassion, and support, it is among people whom God commands to respond to suffering with tenderness and selfless love: “Be kind and compassionate to one another…. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit…. Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others” (Eph. 4:31; Phil. 2:3-4). Instead of pulling away from victims, churches should draw closer to them, listening to their stories, mourning with and praying for them, and bearing their burdens. Responding with love and compassion is one of the best ways to show that the church abhors abuse and is committed to serving those who are suffering.

Confession – Attorneys instinctively instruct their clients to “make no admissions.” Hundreds of churches have followed this shortsighted counsel in recent years, prolonging the agony of abuse victims, infuriating juries, and triggering multimillion-dollar punitive damages awards. In contrast, everyone benefits when people trust God’s promise that “He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy” (Prov. 28:13). When abuse has occurred, a church should express sorrow and acknowledge its contribution to the situation. It should also counsel the abuser to confess his sin, take responsibility for his actions, and seek needed counseling. These steps can prevent a court battle and speed healing for victim and offender alike. (Since an impulsive admission could allow an insurer to cancel coverage, church leaders should consult with their insurer, lawyer, and a Christian conciliator to plan their words carefully.)

Compensation for Counseling – The Bible places a strong emphasis on requiring a wrongdoer to repair any damage he has caused to another person. “Pay the injured man for the loss of his time and see that he is completely healed” (Ex. 21:19). Therefore, churches should be earnest to do whatever they can to bring wholeness to victims of abuse. As soon as abuse is revealed, the church should immediately come to the aid of the victim and his family, holding forth the redeeming power of Jesus and offering to provide or pay for needed counseling.

Change – When abuse takes place, statements of regret are not enough. Genuine repentance is demonstrated by making changes to protect others from similar harm. “Produce fruit in keeping with repentance…. Rescue the weak and needy; deliver them from the hand of the wicked” (Luke 3:8; Ps. 82:4). This requires immediately removing the abuser from his position, involving legal authorities as needed or required by law, and implementing screening and supervision procedures to prevent other abusive people from being in counseling or child-care positions. Such actions not only protect others from harm but also relieve abuse victims, who are deeply concerned that others not be treated as they were.

Conciliation – It may be difficult for a church to implement these steps if a victim’s family is already threatening legal action or an insurer refuses to support personal contacts. These situations can still be resolved without a legal battle, however, by submitting the matter to biblical mediation or arbitration. “If you have disputes, appoint as judges even men of little account in the church” (1 Cor. 6:4). Christian conciliation by outside neutrals can provide a constructive forum to deal with both the spiritual and legal issues related to abuse. This legally enforceable process provides appropriate confidentiality and promotes confession and restitution, which help to bring about justice and reconciliation.

These five steps are not theoretical. I have seen many churches follow this process, usually with great success. In one case, a pastor discovered that a man had abused several children in the church, including the pastor’s daughter. In the midst of his own personal anguish, the pastor prayed to respond to the situation in a way that would reflect the love of Jesus. After consulting with a Christian conciliator and the church’s insurer, the pastor and his elders set out to minister to everyone who had been hurt by this dreadful sin.

They persuaded the abuser to confess his sin to the families of the children and to turn himself in to the police. He willingly accepted his prison sentence, and was even grateful that his destructive behavior had finally been stopped.

The leaders spent many hours with the families themselves, grieving and praying with them, and making sure they received needed support and counseling. In addition, the leaders improved their screening and supervision policies to guard against similar incidents in the future.

They also reached out to the abuser’s wife and children, who were so ashamed that they planned to leave the church. But the leaders understood what being a shepherd is all about. They ministered to this broken family, reassured them of God’s love, and kept them in the fold.

Instead of being dragged through an excruciating lawsuit, the victims and their families, the abuser and his family, and the entire congregation experienced the redeeming power of God. This remarkable process culminated months later during a Christmas Eve service. As the church prepared to sing “Silent Night,” two young girls came forward to light the candles. One of them had been abused. The other was the daughter of the abuser. As they finished their task and smiled at each other, the congregation saw tangible evidence of God’s love and grace.

Abuse in the church does not have to end with catastrophe. When a church follows its Lord, even this great tragedy can result in healing and restoration.


Ken Sande is an attorney, the author of The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (Baker Books, 3rd Ed. 2003), Peacemaking for Families (Tyndale, 2002), and president of Peacemaker Ministries (www.Peacemaker.net), an international ministry committed to equipping and assisting Christians and their churches to respond to conflict biblically.

by Ken Sande, President of Peacemaker Ministries

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When We Are Afflicted…

Posted by word4women on September 16, 2009

mother & child in hospital

Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not comsumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for Him.” Lamentations 3:21-24.

There we were watching and waiting as the doctors began to treat our only little girl. Others were there too, as their children were dying also. Small little lives destined never to grow up.

“In a strange kind of way, we learned how lucky we were…

~ We met people who had but one child; we had three…

~ We met people who did not love each other; we loved each other very much…

~ We had a supportive family and friends; some had none…

~ We believed in God…….

Robin was wonderful, she never asked why this was happening to her. She lived each day as it came, sweet and loving, unquestioning and unselfish.

I made up my mind there would be no tears around Robin, so I asked people who cried to step out of the room. I didn’t want to scare our little girl (she was three years old). Poor George had the most dreadful time he could hardly watch the blood transfusions. He would simply say he had to go to the rest room. We used to laugh and wonder if Robin thought he had the weakest bladder in the world. Not true. He just had the most tender heart.

She slipped into a coma. Her death was very peaceful. One minute she was there, the next moment she was gone. I truly felt her soul leave her body. For one last time I combed her hair, and we held our precious girl. I have never felt the presence of God more strongly than at that moment.

George and I love and value every person more because of Robin. She lives in our hearts, memories and actions.

George Bush and I have been two of the luckiest people in the world, and when all the dust is settled and all the crowds are gone, the things that matter are faith, family and friends. We have been inordinately blessed, and we know that.”

Many of you never knew that George and Barbara Bush had a precious little three year old daughter named Robin who died very quickly from leukemia.  The paragraphs in blue above is a short testimony by Barbara Bush of the beauty from this affliction in their lives.  They faced the unthinkable, the death of a child. Not only did they see her spirit and God’s grace but they were moved by the sadness around them. Not just the sadness of watching a child die…. but the sadness of those less fortunate. Not in any monetary terms but in the richness they had from their God, their love and their friends and family.

Whatever affliction you face today or tomorrow or yesterday…. may you be able to count it all joy as you walk through the valley with The Good Shepherd, your loved ones and your friends.

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Should A Wife Submit To An Abusive Husband?

Posted by word4women on September 15, 2009

man hitting woman

This question if from Desiring God feature, “Ask Pastor John”.

What should a wife’s submission to her husband look like if he’s an abuser?

Part of that answer is clearly going to depend on what kind of abuse we’re dealing with here, how serious this is. Is her life in danger? Or is this verbal unkindness? I’m not sure what the person who asked the question had in mind. So let me just talk about different kinds.

A woman’s submission to her husband is rooted in the word of God, calling her to be—for the Lord’s sake, submissive to him. Which means she always has a higher allegiance, namely to Christ.

Therefore Christ’s word governs her life. And Christ has many words besides “Be submissive.” “Be submissive” is not an absolute, because her Lord has other things to tell her, so that if the husband tells her something that contradicts what the Lord tells her, then she’s got a crisis of, “To whom do I submit now?” And clearly she submits to Jesus above her husband. The reason she is submitting to her husband is because of her prior superior submission to the Lord.

So if this man, for example, is calling her to engage in abusive acts willingly (group sex or something really weird, bizarre, harmful, that clearly would be sin), then the way she submits—I really think this is possible, though it’s kind of paradoxical—is that she’s not going to go there. I’m saying, “No, she’s not going to do what Jesus would disapprove even though the husband is asking her to do it.”

She’s going to say, however, something like, “Honey, I want so much to follow you as my leader. God calls me to do that, and I would love to do that. It would be sweet to me if I could enjoy your leadership. But if you ask me to do this, require this of me, then I can’t go there.”

Now that’s one kind of situation. Just a word on the other kind. If it’s not requiring her to sin but simply hurting her, then I think she endures verbal abuse for a season, and she endures perhaps being smacked one night, and then she seeks help from the church.

Every time I deal with somebody in this, I find the ultimate solution under God in the church. In other words, this man should be disciplined, and she should have a safe place in a body of Christ where she goes and then the people in the church deal with him. She can’t deal with him by herself.

So the short answer, I think, is that the church is really crucial here to step in, be her strength, say to this man, “You can’t do this. You cannot do this! That’s not what we allow. That’s not what Christ calls you to be.”

I can’t go in to all the details, but I would say to the woman, “Come to a church that you feel safe in. Tell them the case. Let the leaders step in and help you navigate the difficulties.”

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John Piper has done a great job in answering this question though he had no specifics. I would like to add some additional comments I believe may be helpful all around.

For Pastors, Elders and Deacons

First to the Pastor and Deacons or Elders! You must be ready to deal with this. I have never talked to a Pastor who has not run into this situation in his church. Likewise I have heard Pastor after Pastor say,
“I am not a counselor”! To which I reply, no but you are a Pastor. Is a Pastor not a shepherd? Would the Good Shepherd stand and do nothing as one of His sheep is hurt? No He would not. Maybe you are a Pastor who has an anger problem so you never “go there” when someone mentions abuse…… I know I am hitting Pastor’s hard and as rough as it seems I have no choice.

My sisters and brothers cry out.

Too many pastors turn their heads away from the sin right under their noses. Like ostrichs with their heads in the sand they carry on as if nothing is going on. So what happens:

~~Other men, who are aware the Pastor knows and does nothing, are emboldened and empowered by the lack of Leadership and Protection by the very men, God has provided to protect and provide for “the weaker vessel”;

~~This in and of itself will drive a woman to despair. I know I have been  there! When a woman who has been taught, when in trouble seek a “man of God”, does as she has been told and gets “horrible” counsel repeatedly, this can lead to a level of despair that can lead to suicide.

When you seek the Pastor and ask to talk to him because your husband is hitting you…. and his counsel is “why don’t you just leave the SOB?” and later when another pastor you seek help from tells you to “lighten up and have an open marriage” Where can you turn?

Abuse is not one sided. By this I mean women are not the only spouse to be abused. There are thousands of men who are regularly verbally and physically abused by their wives…. To this many of you would tell them to grow up…be a man… or worse yet, if she hits you hit her back! None of which is biblical.

I once knew a couple in just this situation. He was well over 6 feet tall and weighed about 200 lbs. She on the other hand was about 5′2″ and weighed about 110 lbs. Certainly your first question would be the same as mine. HOW!  The “how” is not much different then with a man abusing a woman.  Something starts an argument, it escalates, the abuser “must have control” so they use anything at their disposal to get the upper hand. When the abuser is the smaller woman she often uses a tool of some kind to inflict pain. She knows “he will never hit a woman” and thus she becomes even more brazen in her abuse. In the opposite situation the woman is physically smaller and would not think of lifting a tool (weapon) of any kind against him as it will probably be used against her eventually and she will suffer more.

So what should the submission of a wife to her husband look like?  Wednesday we will dedicate the blog to a picture of submission.

Please,  if you are an abused person, woman , man or child. Get help.  An email to cindy@word4women.com will be handled confidentially and responded to in a manner to assist.

Dear Father,

At this moment all over the world, your children are being hurt, abused, tortured, enslaved. This is NOT by your design but through the sin of a fallen world. Lord bring peace and healing to all who suffer. Raise up Godly men and women who will stand in the gap and bear this burden with them. May their help and counsel point them first anad formost to the cross on which you suffered such pain and humiliation for us all.  Amen

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